Facing Fear: How Self-Defense Builds What Can’t Be Broken
- Sarah Draht
- Sep 18
- 2 min read
“Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible be found in us.” — Pema Chödrön
Fear as the Gateway: What Self-Defense Teaches Us
Most people think strength means avoiding what scares us. But psychology and lived experience tell a different story: resilience often grows through fear.
When the body senses threat, the nervous system reacts automatically with fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. These responses are normal and protective. But when we approach fear in safe, supported ways—even in small steps—we teach the nervous system something vital: this challenge is within my capacity.
That’s why even simple acts, like walking into a room alone, saying no when it feels risky, or practicing a self-defense move under real pressure, matter so much. They remind us: I can face this.
Why This Matters
Avoidance amplifies fear. When we step back, fear tends to take up more space.
Facing fear rewires resilience. Research in exposure therapy shows that safe, repeated practice with what we fear helps the brain quiet its alarm signals and strengthens our ability to respond.
Resilience isn’t built in comfort—it grows in the moments when we’d rather run, but instead choose to stay, breathe, and move forward at our own pace.
The Indestructible Self
Our bodies and our life circumstances are not indestructible—they can be injured, altered, or even taken from us.
What endures is deeper: the core of you that fear cannot erase—your capacity to adapt, to heal, and to keep choosing courage even when you feel afraid.
Neuroscience calls this neuroplasticity.
Philosophy calls it character.
At StrongHER, we call it resilience.
Once you glimpse that resilience within yourself, your perspective shifts. You begin to see, with evidence from your own experience, that you are stronger, braver, and more steady than you previously believed.
StrongHER Takeaway
Fear isn’t the enemy. It’s the doorway. Step into it, in your own time and your own way.
Because the strongest you can be is ready—ready to meet fear and discover that at your core, you are resilient.
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